I have to be honest up front. There are times where I am deeply touched by a client’s story. Recently I read for a woman whose story was profoundly sad. I found myself at several points tearing up when contemplating her predicament. This is important to acknowledge upfront… it can be difficult to connect with someone without being touched by their situation. Becoming too connected with a client isn’t a bad thing; it’s not know what to do when it happens that causes problems.
When reading for people whether for friends or paying clients it is important to enter the reading with a certain mindset. You are the conduit (medium) through which messages flow from the other side. The real challenge is how to connect with a client without becoming immersed in their energy, involved in their story. The key is to recognize the process as it happens, advice that is easier said than done. To help keep my energy centered, I focus on this phrase; energy follows intention.
Begin every session with the intention of being present to deliver messages from the other side. You are not responsible for healing your clients, changing your clients or even insuring they understood the message you shared with them. By staying clear on your role as the medium, you can begin to connect without being immersed in your sitter’s energy. Awareness is the key to growth here. If you feel your energy becoming too involved in the client’s story, recognize the situation and remember that ‘energy follows intention’. Remembering this phrase will help to re-center your intention and pull you back into the role of the medium.
I understand that the solution seems simple… it is simple. It is an on-going skill you’re developing to stay in your role as the medium, keeping yourself present for both your protection and the protection of your client.
Many natural mediums and psychics are empathic, simply meaning that they automatically connect with other people’s energy. At first glance this would seem like a good thing, but over time it can wreak havoc. The empathic person has no intention (or discrimination) about who they are connecting with. This can lead to feelings of emotional and physical overwhelm in empathic people because they have such porous boundaries. They have no control (or intention) over their natural talents. Understanding how to be present, how to ground and protect, how to connect energetically and more importantly how to disconnect are the fundamentals of a good psychic development program. Learning and practicing these basics steps will accelerate your development and enhance your feelings of confidence.
For submitting the question I used for this installment of “Ask Charles Cox- Denver Psychic” Sharon R received a copy of ’The Basics of Psychic Development‘ a 4 1/2 hour lecture series of what are really the basics of your psychic development path; managing energy, respecting ethical boundaries and quieting your mind. Three lectures cover the fundamentals of a healthy spiritual journey.
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